Father Time in America

 

Focus up. It’s Father Time in America. 

The last word of our family story is not going to be about who the victim is. It is not about the drama of the trauma, and what you think needs to change to restore fairness in our family court system. It’s not about the politics of eternity, or being woke or making America great again. Love is the last word of our family story. 

This is about the drama of the hero who stands for the heart of humanity. This is about affirming the best in each member of our family, our whole family, unbroken and unseparated as it was in the original moment. This is about restoring hope for the hero’s journey of every child to share the best of the people they come from with future generations.

It’s time to take this drama out of the courtroom, out of the streets, and shut out the media. It’s time for the Patriarch and the Matriarch to stop fighting for control, against each other. It’s time to fight for each other, and our shared humanity. 

It’s time to remember how to pass on a proper story to keep hope alive for future generations. It’s time for Learning Stories. 

There are three steps to a Learning Story. They are simple -  but you have to take the steps, and you have to keep on taking them. Otherwise, you may have quite a story - but you will not be learning anything. You will not explore the purpose of your own life very deeply, and you will not have anything to say for the hero of your own family story - the spiritual heartbeat of humanity going all the way back to the beginning, and that will continue on for generations after you are gone. 

Taking the steps is going to be a game changer for the family. When you start to focus on interactions that reveal the strength of your family instead of playing the victim in the blame and shame game, you will be able to transform the most horrifying family circumstances into opportunities for healing. Trauma that has been passed on from generation to generation does not belong to your children, and it will not have the last word in our family story.

Notice. Recognize. Respond.


* GODSPEED stands for “Gather Only Data in Sync with the Purpose of Every Excellent Deed.”


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