Nothing out of the ordinary, just let the sun shine in.

 

If we want to gain perspective on the source of light in our lives, we can use our own hands to let the sun shine in. We raise our hands to the heavens the right way, and we see the source of everything streaming through our fingers. 

We can draw up plans, purchase materials, and build a house with a window to let the sun in, but the sun is already there. We do not have to make things so complicated. The Learning Story approach is a quantum leap strategy because it notices, recognizes, and responds to learning that might not ever be revealed using a more complicated approach. Family court has a lot of complicated approaches to facilitating positive outcomes. These approaches are a lot like building houses with windows to let in the sun. 

 

Legal action is all based on past precedents. In family court, the actions are even more limited because the precedents that matter most often are local precedents. Nothing out of the ordinary. The ordinary way of doing things requires for everyone to agree upon a set of assumptions. If you do not consent to that set of assumptions, expect for everything about who you are to be challenged, from your emotional stability to your ability to make reasonable judgements - your sanity in other words, your grip on reality. 

 

Let’s say the people in your family’s hometown have an assumption that regardless of global pandemics or any other factors, there must be something wrong with any parent who hasn’t been able to see their child, or who the child refused to speak to for a certain period of time. What do you think the Learning Story for that person, or that family, might be about? 

 

Notice what lawyers have to say about your family story. See if you can identify the plans and materials they have ready to make a legal case for something that is not that complicated. You must give your consent before a lawyer can make your case, but it is your case. Do not consent to making your story more complicated than it is.

Recognize what your family might be ready to learn about next. Lawyers know the law, but you know your heart and you know your family. More is possible than you realize. You can focus on the heart light for your family rather than problems or personalities.

Respond with questions about what else you could do. Don’t limit your options based on what a lawyer thinks about people like you. Don’t just do anything. Do the right thing. Stay open. Help will follow.

* GODSPEED stands for “Gather Only Data in Sync with the Purpose of Every Excellent Deed.”