GODSPEED* with Learning Stories

I was baptized in the Methodist Church when I was eight years old. At the time, I received a faux red-leather copy of the Good News Bible. It contained the same books as the King James Version of the Holy Bible, but it was worded a bit differently and branded with a new title to emphasize the neighborly teachings of the historical Jesus Christ. The good news that Jesus shared with us reminds me of the words of another teacher, Raghavan Iyer, who writes, “Life is no cruel burden imposed upon human beings by some capricious external power, but rather a festival in which there is continual learning and living and loving. But these cannot occur without unlearning, unloving, undoing the excess and illusion of the past.” Our institutions of government and religion are corrupted by the excess and illusion created by our repeated efforts to achieve some sort of status in the world of appearances at the expense of those who are voiceless and disregarded. Today and every day we have the opportun...

  I am feeling like there is nothing I can do. I look out my window to the world, and I look at the flowers blooming in our time, and I wonder. Am I able to really see the flowers for what they are, to experience the potential in each bud to release their fragrance? In the words of Bob Dylan,  “For them that must obey authority/ That they do not respect in any degree/ Who despise their jobs, their destinies/ Speak jealously of them that are free/ Cultivate their flowers to be/Nothing more than something they invest in.” I believe there is more to be experienced in the beauty of this spring day than what can be seen with the eyes, or experienced with the senses, but we have to start somewhere. Ask anyone to tell you what is actually happening, and the chances are if something seems to prevent them from living the life they imagine is possible they will give up describing what they actually see at the point where they sense that the world they describe is limited compared to the...

  People always ask me... what’s the best way to overcome alienation in the court system?  Here's my answer: In the world of parental alienation, it's easy to get caught up in the idea that the only way to overcome alienation is to prove the cause of alienation.   However, we forget that there is another option that is actually more effective, and more honest. Lawyers are paid to argue. Since the causes of things are usually invisible, arguing about the cause of alienation is the perfect way for lawyers to get paid. It never has to end, and nobody will be the wiser.  Child psychological abuse is the term used in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual for Mental Disorders to describe the behavior commonly associated with parental alienation. Any competent clinical psychologist can describe the effects of child psychological abuse, but they can only guess about the cause.  Without measuring the results of court intervention in behavioral terms, alienation beh...

Exchanging marriage vows on Danish Television after 9/11. Talking about the Power of Love. We made a family together. We conceived and gave birth to three human beings, and let me tell you a lot changed in those 11 years after 9/11, but the one thing that did not change was that feeling terrorized and alienated is no reason to give up on family, prevents us from fighting the war on terror is where it matters most, in our own hearts. Alienation is a complex issue that can leave a person feeling lost and alone. For years, I struggled to navigate the legal and therapeutic systems to keep father time consistent and available to my children throughout each step of the processes that were supposed to help my family. I spent countless hours and dollars following the advice of lawyers and therapists, only to find their solutions were not working. They weren’t solutions actually, they were focused on the problems of my family instead of our identity, and I was too. But I was following their lea...

This is it. I am paralyzed at the heart level. There is nothing wrong with me. I have a pinched nerve in my back and feel like I am going to die. This is a psychosomatic situation I’m telling you. We have a limited number of days to walk the earth, and breathe the air and be with our loved ones. When we are separated from our people we may experience a profound sense of disorientation. Though never may a day pass when we are not connected to our people in the certain light of single certain truth, and we know that if we remember that things can only get better, we still worry. What if things don’t get better enough? What if I go to court and everything is quite clear about what needs to be done but there is some rule that will not allow the facts of the matter to be entered into evidence? What if, what if? So, with the date fast approaching where I will learn the answer to these questions I find myself unable to do anything but lay here and watch “Close Encounters of the 5th Kind,” a ...

  If you're like many fathers of the future I encounter, you are most likely discouraged that the systems that you would hope could help you guide your family with love and logic really say and do very different things. I am talking about all the systems that run on clock-time brought to America by the colonists — the legal system and the medical system that run on clock time. The science of colonization uses a mechanistic model to divide and conquer nature into its component parts.  We are coming to the end of an era. The family court and the mindset of therapists the court depends on to help families is changing.  You may be discouraged because you are having a hard time finding a professional who is trained in a methodology to resolve the dynamic that erases fathers from families, and perpetuates a doctrine of separation for your family but I am here with a special news flash…. You have to be the one to lead the way. You can get stuck believing that an attorney will he...